What is the Inside Out Program?

August 5, 2024

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I'd love to talk about the methodology behind the whole different from the inside out program. What is it all based on?

Okay. Yeah. So when you take a look at these videos, there's a particular kind of way or lens that we're looking from that we ask questions from, that we point to that is it's not psychology, although my background is in psychology, so there's some psychological stuff in it. It's not really your typical corporate type of training.

It's not based in kind of tools and techniques and lists of things you're supposed to do. It's really based on how you and I see the world or how you and I make the choices that we make. You know, you could think of us as living in a certain kind of a story. We're living in a certain narrative.

The work comes from the study of human being or what it means to be human, which is called ontology.

That is a backdrop for, you know, why people got involved in using ontology to help people and companies was really because we have a lot of patterns in the way that we see things and the way that we approach not only others, but the way we approach ourselves. And some of the those things are limiting. Some of the the ways in which we interact with the world can be based in something that feels really true and real. You know, when you investigate it a bit closer, you start to realize that there's a certain kind of interpretation that we have that has us feel that so brings up emotion, and it brings up a certain kind of prediction for the future.

And that interpretation, we actually have access to that. So ontology tells us that human beings occur in language, that we are viewing the world through not only talking and thinking, it's also body language, it's music, it's story, it's all, you know, as kind of a communication. And we pass down that the stories from generation to generation. Companies are filled with stories and filled with information that's passed down, both how we do things, what works, and what doesn't work.

But we can get really caught in not questioning or not being curious about, does that still work, or does that have value? Is that making me have freedom? Does that give me freedom, or does that actually cause me to retract? The work that we do is will help you be a better self observer.

So it it's not just that you're observing what you're doing. You're also observing what is the story that's having me do what I'm doing. So it is getting to a little bit more of the unconscious shaping of the narrative that we're in that we don't even know we're in a lot of the time. Ontology is a piece of it.

There's you know, I get really excited now because science and the study of the brain is is sort of proving out what people have thought for a long time in terms of how, you know, our thoughts impact our bodies and impact our well-being and our health. And that the thoughts that we have, the memories that we have that are shaping that story, shaping that narrative, for instance, could have you be really afraid of something. Mhmm. You know?

I don't do public speaking. I'm too afraid. I couldn't possibly do that.

No. That's your reality.

Yeah. That's now it's I can maybe see that it's a story, but it's impacting whether I do it or not. So if I can begin to see that it's not the only possible reality, that there is another reality that could be that I I've never done it before, and I could do it, or I could try that. I might be nervous even even in the in the way that we interpret feeling nervous.

So I think for the most part, the work that we do starts to point people in powerful directions to have access to their own development. We are teaching people ways to look at things that will help them see new opportunities.

Yeah. The I was gonna say just past what they currently have installed in their in their minds. It's like, is that real? Is that supporting you? Is that how you want it to be going? And most of those questions people haven't even thought about ever.

Yeah. And I read some somewhere in a in a book on the ontological coaching, something where a coach had gotten helped this woman see that she was relating to her boss as if he was, you know, a general, like a general of an army or something like that. And he said, well, you know, what does that bring up in you when you think about a general? And it wasn't just general of an army. It was like a whole you know, there was a whole story behind that that made it impossible for her to ask a question or question him. So that's what's really driving the action.

The more she could get in touch with, is that true? Is is he a general? Well, no. He's not a general.

He's my boss. Okay. Good. Has he ever been no. He's never been you know what I mean?

It's kind of like, well, is it possible that he could be something else for you that might then open up a whole series of other options, which is very different than someone saying to you. Well, just go talk to him.

Yeah. Have lunch. Be friends. Here's some advice. Yeah. Which doesn't actually it still makes it about the person and that you need to get over something over there.

You need to somehow control or manipulate the situation to feel different versus simply looking at you Yeah. And understanding yourself better. I don't think most people who show up for the the program necessarily know that we're gonna be looking that deeply at ourselves. And I've had a few people just over the last few years say, oh, this is like free therapy or something like that.

And it always raises my heckles because I'm like, it's not therapy.

You know? We're not doing therapy, but It's it's therapy.

Yeah. Right. Please.

In a sense that it's not it's not therapy, but I think people say that because they they feel like they're getting insight into themselves in a deeper way, and that can be very freeing. Right? That could be that can really help people. So I do think that yeah. We hear that.

Yeah. We kinda throw therapy the word therapy around, like, shopping is therapy and all these things are therapy.

So so all we're saying is that we had some kind of emotional experience.

Yes. Made us feel better.

Totally. Totally. Get it all the time with this training.